Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Husband and Wife From Muslim Matters

(see bottom half for tips by the same author for Wives with regards to their Husbands)

For the Husbands:
How to Score BIG with Women: a Psychological and Islamic approach for Men
October 25th, 2010
By Haleh Banani, M.A. Clinical Psychology

Every man dreams of having a woman who can please him on many different levels. One that fulfills his desires, stimulates him intellectually and soars with him to new spiritual heights. A unique woman that will not only be a source of comfort, but also a source of strength. It is very easy to dream and have expectations of your spouse but what do YOU have to do in order to attract a woman with these qualities and keep her giving at that level?

Generally, men are quite puzzled by women. They are not sure what to do or say to please the women in their lives. Whatever they do seems to get them in trouble. Since most men have this confusion, they simply stop trying. This lack of effort from men creates frustration and discontentment. Most women feel extremely dissatisfied in their marriage. Within my practice as a marriage therapist, I have heard from dozens of women who have a long list of complaints about their husbands. These complaints lead to deep rooted unhappiness and many times divorce.

Top 5 complaints of women about their husbands

Financial issues
Lack of compassion
Too strict/too jealous

Almost every couple I have ever done marriage counseling with has complained about problems in communication. Most of the time women complain that their husband does not share his feelings, he shuts off, he doesn’t listen and he doesn’t know how to ask for what he wants in a diplomatic way. Lack of communication or miscommunication is the bulk of the problem in most marriages. If people don’t know how to get their message across, how to listen or how to resolve conflicts they will face perpetual problems in their lives. Here are some suggestions in effective communication skills:

Make I statements…. never start the sentence with YOU. Say: “I feel neglected when you don’t prepare dinner” rather than saying, “You never prepare dinner.”
Always keep your voice down and refrain from name calling.
Seek first to understand then to be understood. Tough one, but very effective!
Share your thoughts and feelings with your spouse to make her feel a part of your world. Don’t shut her out or else she will feel extremely insecure and suspicious.
Don’t give one word answers – try to elaborate and fulfill her need to know. She shows you she cares by asking many questions.
Listen attentively – that means no checking emails while she talks and no watching T.V.
Simply look in her eyes, listen and acknowledge her. Women loved to be looked at!
Give your wife compliments on everything you like about her – she needs constant reassurance on her beauty, on your love for her, on her cooking. Say it again and again with a smile. It will never get old!
Validate her feelings – say things to make her feel understood. Tell her you understand that she is sad, that she has a right to feel hurt or neglected. The worst thing you could ever do is tell a woman she is wrong to feel a certain way.
Ask for things with gentleness and kindness without being harsh or demanding. If a woman feels like she is being told what to do and how to do it – she will resist. If she is asked kindly and made to feel special she will rush to do it to in order to fulfill her need to please others.
Never compare her to Anyone to get her to change. This is detrimental to the relationship, brings about hostility and a feeling of inadequacy. If you want her to improve in any given area compliment what she is already doing right.
Financial Issues

Each person is brought up with different views and experiences with money. Some are brought up in affluent families that spend frivolously while others come from more modest backgrounds that are trained to save. When individuals with such striking differences unite there is bound to be tension and arguments. That is why money is one of the biggest reasons people fight and even get a divorce. Here are some suggestions for peacefully dealing with money issues.

Learn about each other’s view of money. Become acquainted with their experience with money in order to better understand each other.
Discuss openly issues or concerns you have about your financial situations.
Avoid getting into debt at all cost. If you can’t afford it – just don’t buy it. Simple as that.
Set a budget together and try your best to stick to it. If you slip, and go over the budget, quickly get back on track.
Increase your knowledge about resolving financial problems by reading books, attending seminars or listening to CDs.
Be honest and never hide or deceive your partner about financial issues because it could really damage the trust.
Try to compromise and come up with a win/win solution when you disagree.
Agree to disagree.
Consider the pros and cons of having a two house income or even having a part time job that can help alleviate the financial burden.
Save….Save….Save! You never know what the future holds so always be prepared.


The area of a couple’s life which offers the most potential for embarrassment, hurt, and rejection is sex. The majority of couples I have done therapy with have had issues in this area of their life. It is such an essential part of the marriage and yet very few couples ever talk about it. The goal of sex is to be closer, to have more fun, to feel satisfied, and to feel valued and accepted in this very tender area of your marriage. “Your wives are a tilth unto you; so go to your tilth when or how you will.” [Qur'an 2:223] Here are some suggestions to having a more satisfying sex life.

Fulfill your wife emotionally so that she can be receptive to you. Women shut off sexually if they don’t feel loved, appreciated or desired.
Set the mood…light candles, make dinner, give a massage, get flowers or anything that makes her feel special and loved.
Prolong foreplay. Make sure she is ready.
Take your time and don’t rush her.
Share your likes and dislikes in a gentle, positive way making her feel safe. Instead of saying you never do such and such say: I loved it when you…..or I would love it if you would….
Never criticize or make fun when getting intimate.
Always accentuate the positive – make your suggestions in a way that you are making a good thing even better. Even if you are dissatisfied don’t let her feel it.
When receiving your partner’s request, try not to see it as criticism. Have the attitude of a professional chef that is not insulted if a customer doesn’t crave a particular meal, but makes accommodations that will satisfy the customer’s palate.
Make her feel attractive and desired. The more you give her compliments, the more confident she will feel which will help her to relax and enjoy.
Make sure you try to fulfill her first in order to create a strong, positive association to intimacy.
Lack of Compassion

Men have different ways of expressing their feelings and emotions. Some express their love and concern for the family by simply working hard and providing the very best. They feel that the time they spend at work is an emotional deposit because they are putting so much effort so that their family can be comfortable. Unfortunately, this form of expression of love is generally not sufficient for most women. Women expect the men in their lives to connect with them on an emotional level, provide support and have fun together. The best of you are those who are the best to their wives.” (at-Tirmidhi)
Here are some suggestions in showing compassion so that you can connect with your wife on an emotional level.

Tell your wife you love her daily – don’t make it just a once a year event.
Never enter or leave the house without a proper greeting. Let her feel that you are happy to see her and that you will miss her when you leave.
Make daily deposits in your emotional bank account with your wife by being understanding, forgiving, cooperative and by using words of endearment.
Call your wife or send sweet messages during the day. “…And live with them in kindness…” (Nisaa 4:19)
Eat at least one meal a day together and spend time sharing what you have done.
Give lots of compliments.
If she is feeling sad or angry, show her love and compassion by hugging her. If she says she doesn’t want to talk about it, she doesn’t mean it… you just have to insist sweetly.
Learn to apologize. Even if you were not wrong apologize for making her feel bad. Win her heart not the argument! Amazing what two little words (I’m sorry) can do.
Get her gifts and flowers so she feels that you thought of her. It doesn’t have to be something expensive – just a gesture that you were thinking of her. And do good. Truly, Allah loves the good-doers (Baqara 2:195)
Be supportive and helpful with the kids. Offer to take care of the kids while she does something (anything) for herself. If she has the chance to recharge she will be a much better wife and a nicer mom!
Too Strict or Too Jealous

It is understandable that a man feels responsible for his wife and wants to make sure that she does not exceed beyond the boundaries that Allah has established. “Everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for those in his charge; the man, in his home, is a guardian and responsible for his household (Bukhari and Muslim). It takes diplomacy and gentleness to set guidelines without coming across as too strict and unreasonable. It is always a little flattering when a husband becomes jealous, but when it becomes excessive it is unhealthy and a source of stress for women. There needs to be mutual trust and respect in order to live in harmony and peace. Here are some suggestions for maintaining boundaries without being too strict or too jealous.

Be a spouse to your wife not a father. Don’t treat her like a little girl with a long list of rules. If you treat her like a child she will act like one.
Give her space to make decisions – if you hold her too tight she will feel suffocated.
Respect her and treat her like a partner not an employee.
Trust her – don’t interrogate her for every little thing. Gently ask questions.
Be reasonable in setting boundaries – if you are too strict she will either resent you or not abide by them when you are not around.
Don’t assume anything – check your assumptions and verify before accusing her of anything.
Be kind and understanding so that your wife will happily try to please you. Don’t be a harsh dictator that needs to be overthrown.
If she dresses or acts inappropriately just talk to her, educate her and help her to understand. Make her feel that you are concerned about her. Never be forceful.
Try to make excuses when she falls short.
Be playful with your spouse if you feel some jealousy. Make her feel how much you are attracted to her, how appealing she is to you that you simply don’t want to share her. This will flatter her and make it more likely that she will be more careful.
When you become more sensitive to the needs of your wife and you put effort in supporting her and connecting with her you will reap the rewards of having a more content wife. A happier wife means a happier home which means more peace and tranquility for you. By becoming more aware of these common complaints and implementing the suggestions you will definitely score big with the woman in your life!

For The Wives:
Win His Heart: A Psychological Approach for WOMEN

November 3rd, 2010
Written by: Haleh Banani, MA Clinical Psychology

As women, we desire to have a deep emotional bond with our spouse. We want to be loved and adored. Our inner core is filled with contentment and happiness when we feel understood and appreciated. Making a wish list of traits we want our husband to have is effortless, but bringing out the best in him takes a lot of nurturing.

We need to nourish our spouse daily with love, support and understanding. As a therapist, I have seen numerous men who are disappointed in their marriages. Many are frustrated and confused. Here are some suggestions on improving your marriage.

Men’s Top 6 Requests of Their Wives

Be his friend
Show him respect
Fulfill his physical needs
Make him feel desired
Make him feel appreciated
Create variety
Be a friend

The most important aspect of a marriage is friendship. When there is friendship, any obstacle can be overcome. In the Quran, Allah refers to a man’s wife as his girlfriend in Surah Abasa 80:36 which reveals the type of relationship we need to have with our spouse.

John Gottman, a psychologist who specializes in marriage stability in the States, did a study on married couples and found the one element which determines whether or not couples stay together is friendship. Look at the beautiful examples of Khadija and Aisha (RA) and how they showered the Prophet (peace and salat upon him) with love, providing him with true companionship. Think about your best friend and how he or she became so special in your life. It probably had a lot to do with the amount of time and effort he or she made to get to know you and spend time with you. When was the last time you and your spouse had quality time together where the focus was just on having fun and sharing? An easy way to get started is:

Set a date night with your spouse and stick to it
Share likes, dislikes, dreams etc.
Your friends are people who accept you and make you feel happy. How accepting are you of your spouse? Are you always trying to change or nag him? These behaviors push a man away and doesn’t create positive associations to you. Try to hold off a bit before plunging into a long list of complaints about the kids and house chores right when he arrives.

In order to create or strengthen friendship in marriage, try doing the following:

Listen, listen, listen to him – I mean really listen without being distracted, without making lists in your mind as he talks and without watching T.V. Remember what he shares with you about his work, about his goals, etc.
Share the highlights of the day & be supportive and understanding,
Find out what his area of interests are, read about them and be prepared to discuss,
Always say please and thank you, no matter how long you have been married,
Eat at least 1 meal a day together,
Be forgiving – overlook his mistakes and flaws and train yourself to remember his positive traits ( everyone has some – you just have to focus on them),
Plan activities together (be it traveling together, playing tennis, walking, eating out, going out for movie nights – anything you both enjoy doing together),
Laugh together – don’t take your relationship so seriously all the time. Couples that can laugh together, stay together,
Have time to cuddle – being in close contact, hugging & caressing melts away the barriers, anger & frustrations. We all feel better after a nice, big hug,
Say nice things to each other – If you spoke to your friend the way you speak to your spouse would they remain your friend? Be honest with the answer,
Always make up before you sleep, and sleep at the same time. Don’t lead separate lives.
Show Respect

The need for men to be respected is so strong that when they are given ample respect, they flourish like a plant that has just been watered. When they are deprived of the respect, they wilt and harbor feelings of sadness and resentment. Many times women put a lot of time and effort in keeping the house clean, taking care of the kids and fulfilling all the “duties”, but because they fall short in showing their husbands respect, the husbands will shut down and not show appreciation for all that she has done. It is critical to be sensitive towards men and their feelings. Even though men may not be as expressive, they can and do get hurt and it is much harder for them to recover from hurt feelings.

Here are some ways to show respect:

Always speak with kindness and politeness, regardless of how long you have been married. Show the same (if not more) graciousness to your husband than you show your guests,
Never shout, call him names or use profanity,
Don’t be sarcastic with sensitive issues – if he has any weaknesses or shortcomings don’t crack a joke about it. Even if he doesn’t get mad, he may feel hurt inside,
Listen to his opinion and honor his requests – you will be rewarded in this world with a happy home and in the akhira insha’Allah,
Don’t have a power struggle with him. When women are demanding and aggressive it makes the men be harsh and rigid. If you show respect for the role that Allah has chosen for him he is more likely to be accommodating,
Show love and respect to his family and be a unifying force. Don’t be known in his family as the person who took him,
Respect his “alone time”, and allow him to unwind,
Ask his opinions and value them.
Fulfill His Physical Needs

Intimacy brings about a whole lot of mixed emotions. Some sisters are not interested at all, some can never get enough and others seem to use it as a way to manipulate their husbands. There really needs to be some frank talk about this subject because I have seen many marriages suffer and fall apart due to problems of intimacy.

Sisters, if you withhold sex from your spouse as either a way to get back at him or to control him, you are making a HUGE MISTAKE. Sex is not meant to be a manipulative tool; rather it is a way to bring a necessary fulfillment to you and your spouse. I have had therapy sessions with numerous men who are addicted to porn because their wives show no interest in them or in sex. Men will feel the urge to fulfill their physical needs and if their wife is never available or interested, then some men will be tempted to either get a second wife or pursue haram (forbidden) avenues. That is why it’s of paramount importance for women to learn how to satisfy their husbands and to be available for them.

Here are some suggestions to improve your intimate relations:

Talk about sex together – the majority of couples have never spoken about it so how can they possibly know what the other person’s likes or dislikes are?
Only encourage with loving words when intimate – never criticize or judge,
Never laugh at your spouse when they are vulnerable and baring it all,
Don’t put pressure on him to perform – a large majority of men have performance anxiety. The more you help him relax, the less stressed he will be, the better he will be able to perform,
Don’t make sex about having a baby – it will happen if it’s meant to be insha’Allah. None of this, “Quick, I’m ovulating” business. The more relaxed you both are, the more enjoyable it will be, which will increase the frequency and the likelihood of getting pregnant,
Ask about each other’s fantasies and as long as they are halal (permissible), then go for it – be accepting and non-judgmental when hearing each other’s fantasies
Your wives are a tilth for you so go to your tilth, Surah Baqara 223. Meaning that you can have sexual relations in any way you want with your spouse as long as it’s halal.

Initiate intimacy – don’t wait for your spouse to make the first move every time. Be proactive!
Be engaging during sex – don’t make him feel like you are doing him a favor,
Never fake your enjoyment or else he will never learn how to please you,
Communicate during intimacy sharing your likes, dislikes and give gentle directions.
Make Him Feel Appreciated

When a man gets married he enjoys being the center of his wife’s life. He loves all the attention, the special meals and having his wife exclusively to himself. Once children appear in the picture, everything changes for the man. Not only is he not center stage – he is not even on stage! He sees his wife completely absorbed with the new baby and as much as he loves and adores the child, he simply doesn’t want to be replaced by him.

There are so many times that men are made to feel neglected. Whether it’s because of the newborn baby, her demanding job or her never ending list of errands and voluntarism, men are being overlooked and pushed aside. Each man is craving his wife’s attention. The woman that knows how to shower her man with attention and appreciation will win his heart. In my practice, working with couples, I have discovered that most people either have no idea how to show appreciation or they mistakenly show it the way they would like to receive it.

So here are some practical and easy ways to show appreciation to your husband:

Greet him with a hug and a kiss when he arrives home. Men have a need to feel important,
Make him feel that you are glad that he is home- this will create a positive association to being home; therefore he will WANT to spend more time at home,
Get off the phone before he arrives,
Make sure the place is presentable,
Have a sumptuous dinner ready,
Verbalize that you appreciate his hard work and all that he provides,
Be happy – nothing shows appreciation like a content smile,
Be understanding when he has to stay late or has to travel,
Listen to him without multitasking – I know it’s hard for us sisters to sit still and just simply listen, but it’s so critical to make a man feel heard,
You can lounge around in your sweats all day long chillin’, but before your hubby gets home take 10 minutes to wear something attractive (depending on what he likes – some prefer jeans and a cute top, others prefer short skirts or dresses – find out what he enjoys) and dab some lipstick and mascara on.

Men are exposed to so many attractive women at work, at school, in the malls, on billboards, magazines and T.V. so in order to strengthen them to lower their gaze they need to have something worthwhile to come home to at night. You don’t have to be a supermodel to look presentable to your husband. Just spend a few minutes to fix your hair and accentuate your best assets. Keep in mind sisters, that many times when husbands come home from a long day at work they may not immediatly notice your effort to dress up for him, so gently draw his attention to your new dress, haircut or makeup and let him know you did it just for him.

Make Him Feel Desired

When was the last time you gave a compliment to your husband? And I’m not referring to compliments on how well he fixed the leaky faucet. I mean a compliment on his looks or personality that will bring on a genuine smile. It seems that the more comfortable we are with someone, the less polite and gracious we become. Does that make any sense? Each person desires attention and wants to feel attractive. The need to feel attractive increases as men age, they require more assurance that they are still desirable and worthwhile. There are two ways to make a man feel attractive: either tell him by giving him a compliment or show him that you are attracted to him. Here are some ways to show your attraction to your husband:

Take the time to look at him – deep in his eyes and have your eyes lock. There usually isn’t enough time to make eye contact and since everyone always has to be careful to lower their gaze in public, here is the chance to stare and be rewarded!
Smile affectionately,
Be generous in giving compliments – it’s amazing how a person will light up with kind words.
Be playful, flirt and make him feel like the most attractive person
Create Variety

Variety is always desirable. We enjoy an array of meals, an assortment of clothes and a selection of entertainment. This yearning for variety can be fulfilled even in marriage.

Here are some simple measures you can take to add a little zest and variety to yourself.

Get different hairstyles and change the shade of your hair color – make sure it is something he will like. Don’t go for shocking – always choose styles and colors that suit you the best. Don’t all of sudden choose jet black if you are blonde for the sake of creating variety – just go a few shades darker or lighter or get highlights.
Have a nice wardrobe for the house. ”What, dress up at home?” YES! You don’t need to be all decked out, but you need to have casual, nice clothes for around the house. Don’t just hang out in sweats, pajamas or tacky clothes at home and look your best when you go out.
Get monthly maintenance at the salon. You know the drill: waxing, bleaching, trimming.
Don’t just wait for a lady’s get-together or wedding to get these things done. Make him feel valued by looking well groomed at home for him.
Invest in nice lingerie – it’s not just for the honeymoon. If you want your honeymoon to last a lifetime have a selection of lingerie that you wear regularly. Select items that he would enjoy. Make sure that it looks flattering on you. Not everything that is seductive will look flattering so choose ones that enhance your best features. The secret is to look hot at home!
Try to create variety by getting intimate in different rooms (make sure you will not be unpleasantly surprised by a little visitor), alter the time of day that you get intimate (it doesn’t always have to be in the evenings) and try to be a little adventurous.
From time to time, go for an overnight stay anywhere without the kids- you will be amazed how a different setting will improve your love life.
As you strive to create a strong bond with your husband by being a true friend, you will become closer and more intimate. This intimacy will lead to a more satisfying and relaxed sexual relationship. With an ego that is showered with compliments, attention and appreciation, men will naturally feel more attractive and desired. As they start feeling debonair, they will be more intrigued by you and your versatility. You will create the variety which will break the monotony and have sparks flying. By investing the necessary time and effort into your marriage, you will be pleasantly rewarded with a more satisfied spouse and you will WIN HIS HEART!

Taken from Muslimmatterrs.org

And Allah Knows Best

Friday, December 17, 2010

Explanation of Qunoot by Big Scholar


Saturday, December 4, 2010

How to Treat the Wifey


and Allah Knows Best.

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Important Lessons for the Muslim Ummah

Important Lessons for the Muslim Ummah

Lecture by Shaykh 'Abdul-Azeez bin 'Abdullaah bin Baaz
Translation by Khalid A. Al-Awdah


Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Surat An-Noor

The Quran

Signs, Science and Surety

The Quran is the last revelation, and a proof not only to the pagan Arabs one thousand four hundred years ago, but also to the scientists of today. Perhaps one of the most remarkable qualities of the Quran for those living in the twentieth, and what will soon be the twenty first century, is the complete consistency between the Quran and most of the discoveries of modern science, and in some cases pre-empting facts discovered within the last twenty years. One of the first Western scientists to make a serious study of this subject was Maurrice Bucaille, who wrote a book called The Bible, the Quran and Science. In this book, he compared the statements concerning natural and scientific data in the Bible and the Quran. He concluded: "The Quran follows on from the two Revelations that preceded it and is not only free from contradictions in its narrations, the sign of the various human manipulations to found in the gospels, but provides a quality all of its own for those who examine it objectively and in the light of science, i.e. its complete agreement with modern scientific data. What is more, statements are to be found in it (as has been shown) that are connected with science: and yet it is unthinkable that a man of Muhammad's time could have been the author of them. Modern scientific knowledge therefore allows us to understand certain verses of the Quran which, until now, it has been impossible to interpret. The comparison of several Biblical and Quranic narrations of the same subject shows the existence of fundamental differences between the statements in the former, which are scientifically unacceptable, and declarations in the latter which are in perfect agreement with modern data: this was the case of the Creation and the Flood, for example. An extremely important complement to the Bible was found in the text of he Quran on the subject of the history of the Exodus, where the two texts were very much in agreement with archaeological findings, in the dating of the time of Moses. Besides, there are major differences between the Quran and the Bible on the other subjects: they serve to disprove all that has been maintained-without a scrap of evidence-concerning the allegation that Muhammad is supposed to have copied the Bible to produce the text of the Quran... . In view of the level of knowledge in Muhammad's day, it is inconceivable that many of the statements in the Quran which are connected with science could have been the work of a man. It is, moreover, perfectly legitimate, not only to regard the Quran as the expression of a Revelation, but also to award it a very special place, on the account of the guarantee of authenticity it provides and the presence in it of scientific statements which, when studied today, appears as a challenge to explanation in human terms."

Some of the statements involving data confirmed by modern science are:

The Accurate Description of Embryonic and Fetal Development. At the time of Prophet Muhammad prevalent theories included those of Aristotle who thought that a child was formed by the congealing of menstrual blood catalyzed by the male blood, as rennet does to cheese. In the Eighteenth Century, Hartsoeker claimed to have seen within the sperm a pre-formed human being through the primitive microscopes. The Quran reflected none of these, describing the development of the embryonic human with detailed accuracy:

"We created man from a quintessence of clay, We then placed him as a drop (Nutfa) in a place of rest firmly fixed, Then we made the drop into an Alaqah (leech-like) and then we changed the leech-like structure into a Mudghah (chewed-like) and then We made out of that chewed-like substance bones then We clothed the bones with flesh then We caused him to grow and come into being and attain the definitive form. Blessed be Allah the Perfect creator. After that, at length you will die. Again, on the Day of Judgment, you will be raised up."
[Noble Quran 23:12-16]

The Prophet further explained the meaning of Nutfa as meaning both the male sperm and female ovum. The word "alaqah" has three meanings in Arabic: 1) A thing that clings; 2) A blood clot; and 3) A leech like thing. All three accurately describe the first stage of the developing embryo. After the fertilisation of the egg, a blastocyst develops, which has on its exterior villocites which literally "cling" to the wall of the uterus. It then goes on to resemble a leech both in appearance and behavior. (Both leech and embryo extract blood from host.) It also goes on to resemble a blood clot. The next stage, when it becomes "chewed-like", is also accurate. It is also true that the bones precede the development of muscle and flesh. The Prophetic traditions state: "When forty -two nights have passed over the conceptus, Allah sends an Angel to it, who shapes it, makes its ears, eyes, skin, flesh and bones. Then he says O Lord! is it male or female? And your Lord decides what He wishes and then the angel records it." This accurate information gives the correct time for the recognizable growth of the features described, and the sex of the fetus can not be definitely determined until just after forty-two days. This was not known until the invention of powerful microscopes only decades ago. I have mentioned this subject only briefly, and quoted a few of the verses and hadith concerning this topic. Keith Moore, Professor and Chairman, Department of Anatomy, University of Toronto, Canada, and author of The Developing Human, is considered one of the leading embryologists, said concerning these statements in the Quran and authenticated hadith: "Until the 19th Century, nothing was known about classifying the stages of human development. A system of staging human embryos was developed around the end of the 19th Century based on alphabetical symbols. During the 20th century, numerals were used to describe 23 stages of embryonic development. This system of numbering the stages is not easy to follow and a better system would be based on the morphological changes. In recent years, the study of the Quran has revealed another basis for the classification of the stages of the developing embryo which is based on easily understood actions and changes in shape. It utilizes terms which were sent from God to Muhammed the Prophet by the Angel Gabriel and recorded on the Quran... It is clear to me that these statements must have come to Muhammad from God because almost all of this knowledge was not discovered until many centuries later. This proves to me that Muhammed must have been a Messenger of God." Marshall Jonson, Professor and Chairman, Department of Anatomy, Director of the Daniel Baugh Institute, Thomas Jefferson University, Philadelphia, U.S.A., said: "As a scientist I can only deal with things I can specifically see. I can understand embryology and developmental biology; I can understand the words that are translated to me from the Quran. If I were to transpose myself into that era, knowing what I do today and describing things, I could not describe the things that were described. I see no evidence to refute the concept that this individual Muhammed had to be developing this information from some place, so I see nothing in conflict with the concept that Divine Intervention was involved on what he was able to say."


"Have not those who disbelieve known that the heavens and the earth were joined together as one united piece, then We parted them. And We have made from water every living thing. Will they not then believe."
[Noble Quran 21:30]

This verse clearly mentions the common origin of the universe, a fact that was not discovered until forty years ago with the advent of nuclear physics. The separation seems to refer to what the scientists call the "Big Bang". Also, all living things are composed of protoplasm, which consists of 80-85% water.

"Then He rose over towards the heaven when it was smoke, and said to it and to the earth: 'Come willingly or unwillingly.' They both said: 'We come willingly.'"
[Noble Quran 41:11]

The word smoke describes accurately the primeval state of the universe, which was composed of a hot gaseous mass, with particles moving vigorously, just as in smoke. From this the stars, planets and the earth were formed.

"The heaven, We have built it with power, verily We are expanding it.'
[Noble Quran 51:47]

It is an accepted fact that we are living in an expanding universe. "Allah is the one who created the night and day, the sun and moon. Each one is traveling in an orbit with its own motion." The Arabic word referring to a movement with self-propelled motion is the verb sahabah (yasbahuna in the text). It implies a motion that comes from the body in question. If it takes place in water, it is to swim; it is to move by the action of one's own legs' if it takes place on land. For movement that occurs in space it would mean "to rotate". The sun is actually in orbit, not around the earth but around the centre of the galaxy, so there is no contradiction, since the Quran does not specify the Sun's orbit.

"Have you not seen how Allah merges the night into the day and the day into the night?"
[Noble Quran 31:29]

"He coils the night upon the day and He coils the day upon the night."
[Noble Quran 39:5]

To coil or to wind is the translation of the Arabic verb kawwarra. The original meaning of the verb is to coil a turban around the head. The process of perpetual coiling, including the interpenetration of one sector by another is expressed in the Quran just as if the concept of the Earth's roundness had already been conceived at the time, which is clearly not the case.

"It is He who made the Sun a shining thing and the moon as a light, and measured out their stages... "
[Noble Quran 10:5]

The Quran describes the Sun as a "siraj" which means a torch, generating its own heat and light where as the Moon is described "an-nur" which is light originating from another source.


"Have We not made the earth an expanse; and the mountains stakes?"
[Noble Quran 78:6-7]

"And Allah has cast into the ground mountains standing firm so that it does not shake with you."
[Noble Quran 31:10]

It has recently been discovered that mountains have roots that go into the earth's crust which is composed of seven tectonic plates. Their movement is the cause of earthquakes. It is thought that the roots and weight of the mountains play a vital role in stabilizing the earth's crust.

Animal and Plant life. The sixteenth chapter of the Quran mentions the bee that leaves its home to gather as feminine, although it has generally been believed that the bees are soldiers and they answer to a King. The Quran also mentions the sexes of plants and the winds as a means of their fertilization.

"We sent forth the winds that fecundate."
[Noble Quran 15:22]

All recently discovered matters.

Atomism. The Greek philosopher Democritus (460-361 BC) advanced the theory that matter was composed of tiny, indivisible particles called Atoms. Modern science has discovered that there is the Atom, but that Atom is divisible. The Quran states:

"He is aware of an atom's weight in the heavens and on the earth, and even anything smaller than that..."

[Noble Quran 34:3]


"Does mankind think that We cannot assemble his bones? Nay, We are able to put together in perfect order the very tips of his fingers."
[Noble Quran 75:3-4]

No two finger prints are alike. This verse tells of both Allah's knowledge and ability to resurrect us even to the most unique and individual part:

"Those who reject Our signs We shall soon cast into the fire, As often as their skins are roasted through, We shall change them for fresh skins so that they may truly taste the Penalty, For Allah is exalted in power, wise."
[Noble Quran 4:56]

The nerve ends that feel pain are found in the skin. When the skin is severely burnt the nerve ends are destroyed and pain is not felt. In Hell, Allah will recreate the skin so that its inhabitants may permanently feel intense pain.

"Verily, the tree of zaqqum will be the food of the sinners, like boiling oil it will boil in their bellies, like the boiling of scalding water, ' Taste you this! Verily you were pretending to be the mighty the generous! Verily this is that which you used to doubt!"
[Noble Quran 44:43-50]

"...and drink boiling water which cuts their bowls to pieces."
[Noble Quran 47:15]

Thermal receptors are not present in the intestines. It is known that if the bowel is cut the contents go into the highly sensitive Peritonea Cavity, where intense pain is initiated. This is not common knowledge now, let alone in Muhammad's time. The author of the Quran is, however, well acquainted with these facts!

The Water Cycle. The Quran correctly describes the water cycle, and the origin of underground springs as being from rain water. Obvious you may think, but the Greek philosophers did not get it right, suggesting that underground springs were produced by sea spray collecting in caves which fed a great underground sea through the 'abyss'! In fact the water cycle was not accurately propounded until the 18th century. The Quran, however, states:

"Hast though not seen that Allah sent water down from the sky and led it through sources into the ground?"

[Noble Quran 39:21]

For the sake of brevity, I have only mentioned a few of the statements and provided limited explanation of the statements contained in the Quran and traditions dealing with scientific subjects. T. V. N. Persud, Professor and Chairman, Department of Anatomy, Faculty of Medicine and Dentistry, University of Manitoba, Canada commented: "Muhammed was a very ordinary man, he couldn't read, didn't know how to write, in fact he was an illiterate... we're talking about 1400 years ago you have some illiterate person making profound pronouncements and statements that are accurate of a scientific nature. I personally can't see how this could be a mere chance, there are too many accuracies... I have no difficulty in my mind reconciling that this is a divine inspiration or a revelation which led him to these statements." Let us not forget the words of Dr, Bucaille that these facts "appear as a challenge to explanation in human terms." And Professor Persud's statement that it cannot be coincidence, there are too many accuracies! The probability against Muhammad taking wild guesses and getting each fact right are indeed phenomenal! These scientists, renowned experts in their fields, like the Arabs who had mastered their language in the time of the Prophet, recognize the clear proof and miraculous nature of the Quran.

"We will show them our signs on the furthest horizons and within themselves until they know that this is the truth."

[Noble Quran 41:53]

The Quran is consistent with external realities, and it is also consistent internally. It is the nature of the works of men, be they scientists, philosophers, sages or mystics to contain inconsistencies and contradictions. This cannot be so with the Divine Revelation as the Quran states: "Have they not carefully considered the Quran, had it been from other than Allah they would have found many in-discrepancies in it."

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Shaykh Husary (May Allah Have Mercy on Him)

Some old clips of the Great Reciter



Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Blameworthy Extremism.


Beware of those who brainwash youth

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Informative Writing by Shaykh AbualRub

Who are the Shi'a? by Sheikh Jalal AbualRub

The Shi'a Religion in Summary By Jalal Abualrub (www.islamlife.com)

Here is a summary of the Shi'a (Rafidhi) religion. This summary should be very beneficial for those who still cling to the hope of finding a savior in the Shi'a religion or its people; may they wake up from their long sleep and seek help from the only One Who owns it, Allah (I) the Exalted. Also, this should be a warning to those who know these facts but, for the benefit of their political or pocket agenda, choose to ignore them or even feel alright about them so as not to lose the benefits of cooperating with the Shi'a. They should be aware that Muslims like us will never be silent about exposing this false ideology and those who propagate it in action or by their silence.

What is Islam?

What is Islam? Islam, which means submission to the will of Allah, is built on two aspects, Iman and Islam. Iman, is built on the six pillars of faith: belief in Allah, the angels, the books (including the Quran!), the messengers, the Last Day and all parts of Al-Qadar, or Predestination. Islam, as it pertains to its practical aspects, is built on the testimony that there is none who deserves to be worshipped, except Allah, and to perform the Salah (prayer), Zakah (obligatory alms), Siyam (the Fast) and Hajj (Pilgrimage). All Muslims are required to have knowledge in these aspects so as to keep their religion intact and have it accepted by Allah, the Exalted.

What Are the Resources of Islam?

Islam has only two resources, both a revelation from Allah (I) the Exalted: the Quran, Islam's divinely revealed Book, and the Sunnah, the practices of Islam's Prophet, Muhammad (r), peace be on him.

This is What We Call Mankind To

How simple and magnificent this creed is! This is the summary of Islam. This is what Allah (I) and His Messenger (r) called us to. This is what we call mankind to. It takes only a few moments to learn the major aspects of Islam, and for this, we declare that all thanks belong to Allah (I) Alone without partners.

Allah (r) Preserved His Religion Perfectly

Allah (r) promised to protect and preserve the religion for mankind and He did so magnificently. Both the Quran and Sunnah have been kept preserved and intact and will remain so until the end of time. Not a single letter from the Quran was lost, and not a single authentic Hadeeth has vanished. The Ummah (nation) of Muhammad (r) has inherited all this wonderful knowledge and righteous practice through the Prophet's companions. The generation of the Prophet (r), his male and female companions, did both jobs superbly and beautifully: they preserved the Quran for humankind, and collected it in one universal volume that still exists to this day fully intact forever, and they preserved the Prophet's Sunnah, practicing and teaching it throughout their life.


This is the religion of Islam, simple, powerful, beautiful and easy to learn, practice, and teach. All this sounds wonderful, doesn't it? However, by careful analysis of the Shi`a religion, one will be horrified, to say the least, on learning what this religion calls to.

We will mention here only some of the major aspects of the Shi'a religion, to be followed in later articles by exact quotes and references. This is only a summary, the details will come Inshaallah.


Allah is described like this is in the Shi'a religion.

1. Allah's Names and Attributes: Just like the Mu`tazilah, the Jahmiyyah and similar sects, the Shi'a reject most of Allah's Attributes by altering their implications through the discredited method of Ta`weel. Therefore, where Allah describes Himself with an Attribute, the Shi'a reject, alter and corrupt its apparent meaning, and effectively deny it.

2. To the Shi'a, Allah (I) changes His 'mind', a Kafir creed called Al-Badaa, and He also regrets some of His Decisions.

3. Ali, as well as, other claimed Shi'a Imams, existed with Allah from the beginning.

4. Allah (I) Broke His Promise or was Unable to Keep it: read about this in the Quran section!

5. Allah (I) has shared His Attributes with the Shi'a Imams, such as invocation which is no longer directed at Allah Alone, but to the Imams as well. Some major Shi'a scholars say that to worship Allah Alone is Shirk (Polytheism), but to worship Allah and the Imams together, is Tau'heed (Monotheism). This reminds me of the most famous mathematical formula of all time: 1+1+1=1!

6. The Shi'a Imams are Allah's face.

7. The Shi'a Imams are entrusted with governing the affairs of the existence, to the extent that they control every atom in the world (as Khomeini said).

8. Allah (I) gave up the job of judgment to Ali. This is why some Shi'a scholars welcome this aspect hinting that Ali, who is surely free of all this Shirk, is more merciful than Allah (I).

We will say more in the details Inshaallah.

The Quran

Because the Quran has absolutely nothing to say about the Shi'a creed or any of its pillars, the Shi'a solution was easy: Abu Bakr, Umar and Uthman corrupted the Quran! Therefore, since the Prophet's death, Muslims have been reading the words of Abu Bakr and Umar, not the words of Allah!

The Prophet (r)

Khomeini stated that the Prophet (r) failed in his mission. He also hinted that the Prophet (r) hid a part of the religion, since he failed to 'adequately' inform Muslims about the most important pillar of Islam, the need to have the Shi'a Imams as the infallible leaders of Islam and Muslims.

The Sunnah!

The Shi'a discarded the Sunnah completely, since to them, the Sunnis are disbelievers and so are all their scholars. After all, the two sects are called 'Sunni'; 'Shi'a'. By definition, the Shi'a are NOT Sunni, and the Sunni follows the Prophet's Sunnah. So, the Shi'a do not follow the Sunnah!

The Prophet's Companions

According to the Shi'a, all of the Prophet's companions became Kafir disbelievers after his death, except for 3, 5 or 7 companions, according to the generosity of the respective Shi'a scholar.

The Prophet's Wives

The Shi'a curse the Prophet's wives, call them as Kafir disbelievers and describe them as being wicked, immoral, cheating liars.

Abu Bakr and Umar (Don't Even Ask About Uthman)!

They are, according to Khomeini and his scholars of before, are the two idols of Quraish. The Shi'a curse Abu Bakr and Umar and call them Kafir disbelievers. In today's Islamic Republic of Iran, there is a huge Mazar (monument) erected for Abu Lu-luah Al-Majusi, the Kafir murderer of Umar (as a payback for Umar conquering Iran and bringing Islam to them!). They celebrate this monument and visit it like they visit the Ka'bah. They also celebrate the death of Umar every year! Abu Bakr and Umar, the two successors of the Prophet of Allah (r), are held by 'Muslims' to be the second and third best Muslims after Islam's Prophet.

The Prophet's Wives, the Mothers of the Believers?

To the Shi'a, the Prophet's wives are not believers, let alone being the Mothers of the Believers as the Quran declares them to be. First of all, the Quran was corrupted, so there is no proof there for the Shi'a. Secondly, the Prophet (r) failed in his mission and collected nine of the most wicked, evil women of all time as the Shi'a declare.

What About the Mother of the Believers?

Aishah, the beloved wife of the Prophet, the most knowledgeable Muslim woman of all time, whom Allah declared her innocence in His Quran, the Siddiqah (Truthful One), daughter of Abu Bakr as-Siddiq (The Truthful One), is, basically, none of this to the Shi'a.

1. They curse Aishah in the worst possible manner and in public. (The party the Shi'a criminals had in London lately is the incident that caused outrage among Arab Muslims, because the people in that conference were celebrating the death of Aishah and cursing her in the most wicked manner, calling her an adulterer. I hereby thank the government of Kuwait for expelling the filthy criminal Yasir Al-Habeeb (rightfully called, Khasir Al-Khabeeth, i.e., the wicked loser) and stripping him of his Kuwaiti citizenship. When he was prevented from cursing Aishah in Sunni Kuwait, he continued his mission in Kafir UK. Free speech only works when it is against Islam, doesn't it?)

2. They call Aishah a disbelieving Kafir who betrayed the Prophet of Allah (r).

3. They claim that Ali 'divorced' Aishah from the Prophet (r) after his death.

4. They claim that she married (and worse) after the Prophet (r) died.

5. They accuse her of adultery. (Please, do not waste your time by quoting the Quran regarding her innocence! Remember what the Shi'a say about the Quran? To them, the Quran was changed and corrupted by none other than Abu Bakr as-Siddiq, the father of Aishah as-Siddiqah.)

What is Left of Our Islam?

O, Muslims who support Shi'a actively or by your silence! From now on, you should stop calling to the old Islam and just start calling to this other one instead where…

a) Allah (I) shared His authority and Attributes with the Shi'a Imams; b) Allah (I) regrets His Decisions and changes His mind; c) Allah (I) could not keep the Quran free from corruption; d) the Sunnah is null and void; e) the Quran was changed and corrupted; f) the generation that transferred the Quran and Sunnah, i.e., the Prophet's companions, were all disbelieving Kafirs; g) Islam's Prophet (r) collected for companions tens of thousands of Kafir, disbelieving devils, and had for wives wicked women who were sinners, some of them even committed adultery; h) Islam's Prophet (r) failed in his mission and did not deliver all of the Message; i) for more than 1300 years, Islam did not and still does not have a holy book since the real Quran was and still is hidden with the last Shi'a Imam, the Mahdi, who has been hiding in a hole in the ground for more than 1300 years, having water and honey as food!

No Thanks, We Like Our Islam the Old-Fashioned Way

Yet, with all these facts, there are still some Muslims today who act like at least one of the three monkeys: one placing his hands on his eyes, the other on his ears, and the third on his mouth! And they want to regain their Islamic unity and might and free Palestine by cooperating and supporting such an evil religion at the expense of Allah, the Quran, the Sunnah, the Prophet's companions and wives, and Aishah, our mother!

This is why when I hear some of my fellow Palestinians build palaces and castles in dreams of the Shi'a retaking Palestine from the Jews, I tell them this…

Do You know?

Do you know that…

1. Khomeini admitted that the Shi'a religion was started by a Jew (Abdullah Ibn Saba)?

2. In the Shi'a resources, when the Mahdi finally decides to leave his cave, and enjoy a more diverse diet than water and honey, he will remove the dead bodies of Abu Bakr and Umar from their graves, which are next to the Prophet's grave, and flog them. He will then destroy the Ka'bah, reestablish the Jewish Temple (for those who do not know geography, Jews say that their temple is located in the same place as Al-Masjid Al-Aqsa, in Jerusalem), and use David's star as the simple for his state. (And to think that the poor Zionists had to fight their way into occupying Al-Quds and raising the Zionist star above it. All what they had to do is wait for the Mahdi, or at least his deputy, as Khaminei, the current Shi'a Imam, declared himself to be lately, to rebuild the temple for them, free of charge.)

3. Umar freed Palestine from Christian tyranny, and Salah ad-Din freed it again from Christian tyranny. The Shi'a curse both of them.

I declare that if this is the price to pay to win back my Palestine, I do not need it or need the people who retake it from the Jews to end up giving it to a religion that was started by a Jew.

I know some readers will totally dislike my articles about the Shi'a religion. They will not like to listen to the truth. They are dreaming of millions of Shi'a soldiers marching into Al-Quds to free it from the Jews and surrender it to the Mahdi deputy. They will be waiting for a long, long time. Frankly, I do not care if such Muslims dislike what I say here; I only hope in and fear Allah, the Exalted, the Most High. My only wish is that those who try and refute what I say be courageous enough to mention their full name as I always do in my books and articles, and to declare to us that they do not care if the Shi'a say all of this. However, the Shi'a and their supporters cannot refute what we state here about the Shi'a, because their books of old and new are full of this false creed and much more.

I end this articles with this wonderful statement by Imam Ibn Taimiyyah, "If you ask the Jews about the best among them, they will say, 'The companions of Musa (Moses u).' If you ask the Christians, 'Who are the best among you,' they will say, 'The disciples of `Esa (Jesus u),' If you ask the Shi'a, 'Who are the worse among you,' they will say, 'The companions of Muhammad.'"

Shaykh Jalal Abualrub

-And Allah knows best.
May Allah unite our Ummah upon the truth and guide us to that which is most pleasing to Him.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Muslims Dividing the Religion into Groups

"What should a Muslim's Stance be Vis-a vis the Different [Muslim] Groups?

94) Question: There is much talk nowadays about the different Islamic groups that call to the way of Allah (swt) - groups such as Jama'at Al-Tabligh, the Ikhwan, and the Salafis. Which of these groups should we follow? And what should a Muslim's stance be with regard to the different groups that exist today?

Answer from the noble shaykh Muhammad Ibn Al-Uthaymeen, May Allah have mercy on him:

The stand I take on this issue is that I describe it to be painful and saddening, and I fear that, as a direct consequence of division among Muslims, the Islamic awakening we are witnessing today will weaken and fail. When people divide, their situation becomes as Allah (swt) describes it to be:

And do not dispute (with one another) lest you lose courage and your strength depart (8.46)

It is made clear in this verse that whenever people dispute with one another and become divided, they will fail and lose their strength, becoming insignificant.
All enemies of Islam, both those who display their enmity outwardly and those who hide their enmity within themselves, rejoice over our division, and if they can, they add flame to the fire. They will go to one person, whispering lies about another person in his ears, sowing dissension among Muslim brothers who call to the way of Allah (swt).

We must stand united and together defend ourselves from the plots of those who show enmity to Allah, to His Messenger, and to His religion. We must be one Nation in the truest sense, gathering together and benefitting from one another. In our unity, we must become as on caller. to accomplish these goals, the leaders of each country, those who have an influence over others, must get together, study the situation, and unite upon a plan that can accommodate everyone, even if they still differ in the way they perform da'wah to the way of Allah. What is important is that we be brothers, mutually loving one another and uniting together upon the truth.

The questioner asked, "Which group is the best one?" Were I to say that such and such group is the best one, I would, in effect, have acknowledged and endorsed the division, and I do neither; rather, I believe that we should become like one hand. we must look at our situation truthfully and sincerely- sincerely to Allah (swt), to his Book, to His Messenger, to the Imaams of the Muslims, and the common Muslims. The truth- Alhamdulillah, all praise if for Allah - is clear, remaining hidden to only one of two men: a man who turns away or a man who is haughty. As for the one who turns towards the truth, sincerely wanting to submit to it, then without a doubt, he will be guided to it.

There should only be One Group

95) Question: In recent times there has a appeared a number of Islamic groups in Muslim countries; groups such as the Ikhwan Al-Muslimeen, the Salifiyyin, the Jama'at At-Tabligh, and other. Each group criticizes and finds fault with the other groups, and some members of one group might even proclaim that those of another group are disbelievers. Please explain to us your view regarding the different groups.

Answer given by the Noble Shaykh (Rahimahullah):

It is very sad to see Muslims becoming divided, with each person or group headed in a different direction. The Muslim Nation must truly be one Nation, for Allah (swt) said [translation of the meaning]:

And verily! This religion (of Islamic Monotheism) is one religion. (25.52)

And Allah (swt) said to his Prophet (Peace and Blessings be upon Him) [translation of the meaning]:

Verily, those who divide their religion and break up into sects (all kind of religious sects), you (O Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him) have no concern in them in the least. Their affair is only with Allah (Swt), Who then will tell them what they used to do. (6.159)

And Allah (Swt) said [translation of the meaning]:

He (Allah (swt)) has ordained for you the same religion which he ordained for Nuh, and that which we have inspired in you (O Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)) and that which we ordained for Ibraaheem, Musaa and Isaa, saying you should establish religion and make no divisions in it (religion) (i.e. various sects in religion). (42.13)

Therefore the Islamic principle in this issue is that the Muslim Nation must unite upon Allah's Religion. Division which leads to some proclaiming other are evildoers, innovators, disbelievers, is Haram (forbidden).

Every person is prone to error:
"Everyone from the children of Adam errs frequently, and the best of those who err frequently are those who repent" (Tirmidhi 2499 ruled Hasan by Shaykh Al-Albaani)

One who is complete helps the one who is lacking, and the latter should thank the former for pointing out his shortcomings to him.

It is clearly against the teachings of Islam for Muslims to curse one another or accuse one another of being evildoers; in fact, Islam declares war on every matter that causes division. The Prophet (Peace and Blessings upon Him) said:

"Do not hate one another; do not plot against one another or show enmity towards one another; do not Tanaajashu (raise prices of a product in order to decieve others); and do not enter into the buying transactions of ther (i.e., if person A is inclined to sell a product to person B, being satisfied with the price offered, do not then thrust yourself between them, offering a higher price). Be Allah’s slaves, as brothers unto one another. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim....' (Muslim 2564)

The different Muslim groups must get together and point each other's mistakes, openly discussing the issues that divide them. Through such a process perhaps we can only truly become one Nation, loving one another, showing mercy to one another, and helping to rectify one another's shortcomings. And it is Allah (swt) who grants success."

End Quote from
"The Islamic Awakening, Important Guidelines"
 (c) 2006 published by Al-Hidaayah  Publishing & Distribution

We must unite upon the way of the Companions.
And Allah the Most High Knows Best.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

The Most Beloved Fasting and Prayer to The Most Loving

Narrated Abdullah bin Amr (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said to me, "The most
beloved fasting to Allah was the fasting of (the Prophet) David
('Alaihis-Salam) who used to fast on alternate days. And the most beloved
prayer to Allah was the prayer of David ('Alaihis-Salam) who used to sleep
for (the first) half of the night and pray for 1/3 of it and (again) sleep
for a sixth of it."

Bukhari Vol. 4 : No. 631

Monday, September 27, 2010

Beware of Certain Islamic Fitnah on the Internet

May Allah (Swt) protect us from those who have gone to extremes

The Messenger of Allaah (SAW) said, "I warn you of extremism in the Religion for indeed those that came before you were destroyed due to their extremism in the religion." Reported by an-Nasaa'ee (5/268), ibn Maajah (no. 3029), Ahmad (1/215, 347) with a saheeh sanad

May Allah (Swt) send peace and blessings upon the Greatest of Messengers and upon all those who Follow Him,

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Letter to a Hijaabi

Alhamdulillah, Wasalaatuwasalaam Alaa Rasulillah,

It is always good to see a sister wearing hijaab, and I know it takes effort and gradual steps at times. May Allah (Swt) reward you for this achievement that He has allowed you to accomplish.

to proceed,
Please understand, I am not saying that the information below is necessarily about you sister, as I know you have more love for Allah and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) than me, I am simply reminding you of something’s that the Beloved (peace and blessings be upon him) said, and that the scholars said, so that we can benefit. Indeed reminders like this are beneficial to the believer, even if they sometimes indicate mistakes.

“And remind , for verily, the reminding profits the believers.” 51.55

I only hope that you will benefit from this reminder and that it will end up increasing your love for Allah (swt) and his Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him).

And if you already know of these things, then Alhamdulillah, the least you can do is encourage other sisters to put this into practice.

(don’t scan this without reading the full interpretation of the Hadith, as it is very beneficial, and quick scanning may lead to a misunderstanding.)
It was reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet: men with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people, and women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something on their heads that looks like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will never enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.” (Narrated by Ahmad and by Muslim in al-Saheeh).

This is a saheeh hadeeth which was narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said: “There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: men in whose hands are whips like the tails of cattle, with which they beat the people, and women who are clothed yet naked, maa’ilaat mumeelaat, with their heads like the humps of camels, tilted to one side. They will not enter Paradise nor even smell its fragrance.” This is a stern warning to beware of the things referred to.

The men in whose hands are whips like the tails of cattle are those who beat the people unjustly, like police and others, whether that is done by order of the state or otherwise. The state is only to be obeyed with regard to matters that are right and proper. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Obedience is only with regard to what is right and proper.” And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator.”

With regard to the phrase “women who are clothed yet naked, maa’ilaat mumeelaat”, the scholars interpreted this as follows:

“kaasiyat ‘aariyaat (translated above as “clothed yet naked” may have another meaning, which is that they are enjoying the blessings of Allaah, but they do not give thanks for them and they do not obey the commands of Allaah or heed His prohibitions, even though Allaah has bestowed upon them wealth and other blessings.

The hadeeth is also explained in a different manner, which is that they wear clothes that do not cover them, because they are too thin or too short, so they do not serve the purpose of clothes, hence they are described as naked, and because the clothes they wear do not cover their ‘awrah.

Maa’ilaat (literally “deviant”) means they turn away from chastity and righteousness, i.e., they commit sins and evil deeds like those who do immoral actions, or they fall short in doing the obligatory duties, prayer etc.

Mumeelaat means they turn others away, i.e., they call people to evil and corruption, so by their words and actions they lead others into immorality and sin, and they commit immoral actions because of their lack of faith or the weakness of their faith. The point of this saheeh hadeeth is to warn against oppression and all kinds of corruption from men and women.

With regard to the phrase, “their heads are like the heads of camels, tilted to one side,” some of the scholars said that this means they make their heads look big because of the hairstyles they adopt and so on, so that it looks like the hump of a bakht camel. The bakht is a type of camel that has two humps between which there is a dip, so that one hump leans one way and the other leans the other way. When these woman make their heads look big in this way, they look like these humps.

With regard to the phrase, “They will not enter Paradise nor even smell its fragrance,” this is a stern warning; it does not necessarily mean that they are kaafirs or that they will abide in Hell forever, like other sinners who die as Muslims; rather what is meant is that they and other sinners are threatened with Hell for their sins, but they are subject to the will of Allaah. If He wills He will forgive them and if He will He will punish them. This is like the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, Allaah forgives not that partners should be set up with Him (in worship), but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He wills”

[al-Nisa’ 4:48]

If a sinner (who is Muslim) enters Hell, he will not abide therein forever like the kuffaar, and those who will abide therein like murderers, adulterers and suicides will not abide therein forever like the kuffaar; rather it is an eternity which will have an end according to Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa’ah – in contrast to the Khawaarij and Mu’tazilah and the innovators who follow their path, because the saheeh mutawaatir ahaadeeth narrated from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) indicate that he will intercede for the sinners among his ummah and that Allaah will accept that intercession from him (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) a number of times; each time He will specify a number who are to be brought forth from Hell. Similarly the rest of the Messengers, the believers and the angels will all intercede by Allaah’s leave, and He will accept their intercession for whomsoever He will among the believers in Tawheed who have entered Hell because of their sins but are Muslims. Then there will remain in Hell those sinners who are not included in the intercession of the intercessors, but Allaah will bring them forth by His Mercy and Kindness, and there will be none left in Hell but the kuffaar who will abide therein forever and ever.

Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah li’l-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 6/355

The purpose of clothing is to prevent fitnah (temptation), and this can only be achieved if clothes are wide and loose. Tight clothes, even if they conceal the colour of the skin, still describe the size and shape of the body or part of it, and create a vivid image in the minds of men. The corruption or invitation to corruption that is inherent in that is quite obvious. So the clothes must be wide. Usaamah ibn Zayd said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave me a thick Egyptian garment that was one of the gifts given to him by Duhyat al-Kalbi, and I gave it to my wife to wear. He said, ‘Why do I not see you wearing that Egyptian garment?’ I said, ‘I gave it to my wife to wear.’ He said, ‘Tell her to wear a gown underneath it, for I am afraid that it may describe the size of her bones.’” (Narrated by al-Diyaa’ al-Maqdisi in al-Ahaadeeth al-Mukhtaarah, 1/442, and by Ahmad and al-Bayhaqi, with a hasan isnaad).

for more information of Hijaab, here is the stipulations by a great recent scholar:

As Muslims we should make sure that we follow the Scholars and we should be careful with our own individual interpretations.
Even so we might be doing things wrong, and I am speaking of myself first, we need to believe what the companions believed, and we need to hold how they lived as our standard. It might take time to put everything into practice, but the important thing is for us to realize that we have a lot of work to do on ourselves and we have to improve slowly. The issue should not be a confusing one, we should try not to delve too much into picking and choosing and “fatwa shopping”. What is the most correct opinion is usually clear, and albeit we are sinners, we should still be consistent in trying to reach the high standard of the companions without going to extremes by burdening ourselves with more than our capability.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Religion is easy, and no one overburdens himself in his religion but he will be unable to continue in that way. So do not be extremists, but try to be near perfection and receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded. Gain strength by worshipping in the mornings and afternoons and during the last hours of the night.”

there should be no harm in me sharing with you this opinion:
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: I think that the Muslims should not follow this fashion and wear the clothes that come to us from here and there. Many of them are not compatible with the Islamic dress code which completely covers the woman, such as clothes that are short, very tight or see-through. That includes pants, which show the size of the woman’s legs, stomach and waist. Wearing them is included in the saheeh hadeeth “There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: people with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people, and women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something on their heads that looks like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will never enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance, although its fragrance can be detected from such and such a distance.”  End quote. The hadeeth was narrated by Muslim (2128).
He also said: What I think is that it is haraam for women to wear pants because this is an imitation of men, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who imitate men. It also makes women less modest, because it opens the door to the garments of the people of Hell, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen” and he described them as “women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait, with something on their heads that looks like the humps of camels, leaning to one side. They will never enter Paradise or even smell its fragrance”. End quote from Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen.
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/102):
As I said in the beginning, I am in no way judging you, I do not even know how hard it is to wear Hijaab in these times, I am also not a scholar, but here is the opinion of a great scholar, the important thing is that he is using authentic evidence, which gives weight to his opinion.
I know that you love Allah the Most High and His Messenger more than me and that you will hasten to obey them.
Do not be discouraged, even if you feel that this is very difficult then take your time, and put things into practice at your capability, don’t overburden yourself.
again I will tell you the Hadith
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Religion is easy, and no one overburdens himself in his religion but he will be unable to continue in that way. So do not be extremists, but try to be near perfection and  receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded. Gain strength by worshipping in the mornings and afternoons and during the last hours of the night.”
and Allah says,

“So keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him as much as you can”
[al-Taghaabun 64:16]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When I tell you to do something, do as much of it as you can.”

My dear respected sister I hope that you found this beneficial and I ask Allah to guide me to that which is most pleasing to Him.
I ask Allah to give you strength in worshipping Him and to make you a leader in obedience for the Muslim Sisters at ---(name of location removed)------ and in the ----(name of location removed)--. I ask Allah to guide me if anything I have said in this was in anyway displeasing to Him.

Allah says in Surah an Nisaa:
These are the limits (set by) Allah, and whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success.
O you who believe! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم), and those of you (Muslims) who are in authority. (And) if you differ in anything amongst yourselves, refer it to Allah and His Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم), if you believe in Allah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for final determination.
Have you not seen those (hypocrites) who claim that they believe in that which has been sent down to you, and that which was sent down before you, and they wish to go for judgment (in their disputes) to the Taghut (false judges, people who judge according to other then the Quran and the authentic Sunnah) while they have been ordered to reject them. But Shaitan (Satan) wishes to lead them far astray.
I sure hope that I have not offended you sister, as I know you are a better Muslim than me.
May Allah the Most High guide the believers here at --(name of location removed--- to that which is most pleasing to Him, and may He make Them of those who follow the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) both in word and deed.

And All praise and thanks are to Allah, and Allah knows best.